Birthdays

Picking up on yesterday’s reflections, what if my father were alive to read the post about same-sex marriage?

Chances are he wouldn’t have read it. I don’t think he or my mother ever owned a computer.

But what if I read the post to him? My sense is that he would have did what he did most of the time. He would have listened, asked a few questions, and maybe even asked me for something more to read about the subject. If my mother were in the room, my father would have been pleading with her — not always the most open-minded of people — not to become too upset at the boy.

And so I live with this odd sense of being one part my father when it comes to the culture war stuff, and one part my mother when it comes to the Lord’s Day and worship stuff. Call me conflicted.

And also call me despondent at least for today because this would be Jay Hart’s birthday if he were still alive. I know some celebrate June 11 as the birthday of the OPC. But fourteen years before the OPC started its ministry, my dad was born in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania among the Pennsylvania Germans who, thanks to the great war, became the Pennsylvania Dutch.

As much as I don’t think my father would have minded my questions from yesterday, I know he would have objected to yesterday’s Phillies’ game. So glad he doesn’t have to endure this season.

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18 thoughts on “Birthdays

  1. You were right about everything all along afterall, Darryl. Sorry. 😉

    http://www.breitbart.com/london/2015/04/14/im-sooo-bored-of-being-gay/

    I’M SOOO BORED OF BEING GAY
    by MILO YIANNOPOULOS

    All the best sex – in fact, all the best things in life – are transgressive and naughty. But there’s a problem when forbidden fruits go mainstream. When you teach yourself to be excited solely by transgressive acts, and end up only really happy when you’re breaking rules or upsetting someone, you’re at the mercy of changing fashions.

    Today, thanks to society’s endless mollycoddling and celebration of “alternative” lifestyles, the joy of rebellion is drying up for me. You see, I only plumped for homosexuality to irritate my parents. But now even they are fine with it. A few years ago, my mum said, perhaps cannily, “All I want is for you to be happy.”

    That came as devastating news. Because my sexuality was never about maternal acceptance, but rather the mischievous and incorrigible pursuit of social censure and the threat of being cut out of the will. Now my gayness was not only roundly applauded by wider society but even my own parents, what was the point?

    So I find myself in the perplexing position of asking: what’s next? Casting my eye around modern Britain, in the last few months I’ve been on the look-out for the most marginalised, ridiculed and socially ostracised slice of the population. And I think I’ve nailed it: it’s time for me to become a straight white male.

    Since gay people have been so endlessly praised, flattered and catered to by the media and politicians, I’ve lost interest in sleeping with men. I want to feel oppressed again! That’s why, from today, I’m going to make a go of being straight. Wish me luck!

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  2. Tom,

    What’s your sense of the artist milieu in LA? Personally excited about gay marriage? Not excited?

    The legal community? (Bobby’s crowd)

    Somehow the notions of “the old ball and chain” and “freedom of sexual expression” just don’t go hand-in-hand.

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  3. TVD
    Posted June 11, 2015 at 6:37 pm | Permalink
    You were right about everything all along afterall

    sounds like my wife

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  4. The movie “Philadelphia” comes to mind. Tom Hanks character was in a committed relationship but strayed.

    Avoiding infidelity is hard enough in male/female relationships and females are generally biologically receptive to sex about one week a month. Males, on the other hand, are good to go roughly 30 days a month except for the months with 28, 29, or 31 days.

    Not sure that’s a recipe for fidelity in male/male marriages.

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  5. Erik Charter
    Posted June 11, 2015 at 6:55 pm | Permalink
    Tom,

    What’s your sense of the artist milieu in LA? Personally excited about gay marriage? Not excited?

    Somehow the notions of “the old ball and chain” and “freedom of sexual expression” just don’t go hand-in-hand.

    Since there was no such thing as gay marriage, out of “fairness” the Screen Actors Guild began to cover same-sex Domestic Partnerships in 1998, although not heterosexual ones. Now wherever there’s gay marriage, gays have to get married to get the health care benefits. [I think.]

    So you could say that Hollywood legalized gay marriage 17 years ago.

    http://www.sagph.org/html/frm01010.pdf

    1. We are the sole domestic partner of each other and have no other domestic
    partners.
    2. We are the same sex and neither of us is married.
    3. We have resided together for the immediately preceding 6 months and intend to do
    so indefinitely.
    4. We have been domestic partners as evidenced by documentation listed in item #6 of
    this affidavit since:
    Enter date: _________________ (mm/dd/yyyy)
    5. We have not had a spouse or another domestic partner in the last 6 months.
    6. We have undertaken a relationship of mutual financial support, which shall continue
    as long as we are domestic partners. This relationship imposes upon us the same
    financial commitments (including, in some cases, liability for each other’s debts) that
    would exist if we were married as husband and wife in the state and county in which
    we reside. In proof of this relationship of mutual financial support, we agree that

    OUR ACT OF SIGNING THIS DOCUMENT CERTIFES [sic] THE SAME RELATIONSHIP
    OF MUTUAL FINANCIAL SUPPORT BETWEEN US AS IF WE MARRIED AS
    HUSBAND AND WIFE IN THE STATE AND COUNTY IN WHICH WE RESIDE.

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  6. And so I live with this odd sense of being one part my father when it comes to the culture war stuff, and one part my mother when it comes to the Lord’s Day and worship stuff. Call me conflicted.

    This resonates.

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  7. “Picking up on yesterday’s reflections”

    appreciate the post. Every one deserves a father and mother.

    what AB said, and – Listen to your father who begot you, and do not despise your mother when she is old. Let your father and your mother be glad, and let her rejoice who gave birth to you. Eph 6:2; Prv 23:22,25

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  8. A big bear hug for you DGH.

    Assimilating our parents into our own selves can be one big challenge sometimes. And then, our time with them is all too short.

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  9. Personal question for those of you whose fathers have passed: How do you respond to this statement?

    Looking back, I wish I would have done more of ____________ with my dad while he was alive.

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  10. Erik,

    My Dad and I were very close, but naturally I would have enjoyed more time with him, as he had to share his time with me among my other siblings. My father imparted many things to me that I appreciate and cherish all the more as time goes on. Once we were visiting a friend of ours in his office, and when we left, my Dad referred to him as “Dr.” (He was MD). My Dad later told me that it was a courtesy-respectful to refer to him in this way in his office, and that when he was in our home he called him by his first name. This is just one of many things that my Dad gave to me in my upbringing.

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  11. Darryl,

    He was there?

    I’ve heard WWII vets didn’t talk much about it.

    Have you seen “The Pacific”? Gruesome.

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