That’s what makes Tim Challies’ brief for spiritual zeal and all things earnest all the more mystifying:
A number of times I have spoken to a woman and heard her admit that she essentially drafts behind her husband. She takes comfort in her husband’s spiritual strength and discipline but neglects her own. She goes to church when he is around but is quick to bail when he is not. She allows him to carry the load when it comes to teaching and training the children, when it comes to reading and praying with them. She doesn’t only allow him to take the lead (as, indeed, he should) but uses his leadership as a quiet excuse to not put in much effort of her own. She finds that the family is in good shape spiritually but admits that this is far more because she rides in his draft than that she is full-out pursuing the Lord. If he stopped putting in the effort, she would have little strength of her own.
Maybe Challies is simply channeling men’s historic discomfort with women taking the lead, as Jill Lepore reports:
The debate about a female prince advanced all kinds of political ideas, not least the rule of law, the mixed nature of the English constitution, and the sovereignty of the people. It also inaugurated an era of topsy-turvy play in everything from Elizabethan drama and French carnival to German woodcuts, as the brilliant historian Natalie Zemon Davis argued in a 1975 essay called “Women on Top.” Davis wrote that the fascination with female rule came at a time when men were asserting new claims over women’s bodies and their property. In 1651, in “The Leviathan,” Thomas Hobbes wrote about Amazons to support his claim that “whereas some have attributed the dominion to the man only, as being of the more excellent sex; they misreckon in it,” which is why it’s important that laws exist, to grant man that dominion. In 1680, in “Patriarcha,” Sir Robert Filmer located the origins of all political authority in Adam’s rule. Meanwhile, some theorists who imagined a state of nature, a time before the rise of a political order, became convinced that America, before Columbus, had been a “gynæocracy,” as one French writer called it. But the chief consequence of this debate was the Lockean idea that men, born equal, create political society, to which women do not belong; women exist only in the family, where they are ruled by men. Hence, in 1776, Abigail Adams urged her husband, in a letter, to “remember the ladies” in the nation’s “new Code of Laws,” which he most emphatically did not. “Depend upon it,” he wrote back, “we know better than to repeal our Masculine systems.”
Male headship and female piety may explain why human flourishing is as plausible as w-w.
Women are neither more pious nor less pious. They are more followers of the herd; if the herd be more pious, so will they; if the herd be less pious, accordingly they will be as well.
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What a great post that was, wasn’t it, exhorting all, that is everyone, equally, to truly know Jesus more and more, for it is in Him that are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge.(Col 2:3). How else can men lead well and women help well without that; as well as all, that is everyone, being able to pursue peace with all men and the sanctification without which no one will see the Lord. (Heb 12:14).
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That first paragraph is nearly identical to my situation.
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Women are more pious. Unless you live on Mars.
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No; I live on Planet Sex-realism, not Planet Female Pedestalization.
I know, those brainwashed by Victorian values, and chivalry, can’t see things as clearly as those of us free of such illusions. Your problem; not ours.
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More differences between men and women:
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Mencken’s observations are somewhat outdated: women have banded very well together indeed to promote feminism and feminist ideals in our society, even those who claim to eschew feminist ideology such as ostensibly traditionalist Christian women. True, they still are mortified when another woman shows up at a party wearing the same dress / top / whatever, while to men, another man wearing the same thing is confirmation that they both have great taste. But regardless, across differences of race, socioeconomic class, religion, singlehood vs. married, partisan divisions, etc., women have worked together as Team Woman to promote Team Woman’s interests. Sisters, under the skin, all… (Of course, the moment one is criticized, or a general observation about female nature is made, any within earshot will scream NAWALT! (Not All Women Are Like That), because they don’t want the truth revealed, that they indeed mostly are all like that.)
There’s a reason why, despite it being primarily the Left that has promoted abortion, that the Right has been unable to stop it. It’s because women on the Right actually don’t truly oppose abortion. And GOP First Ladies and presidential candidate’s wives bear much blame in this regard – as do their husbands for marrying them and being henpecked.
https://patriactionary.wordpress.com/2016/01/15/one-reason-ostensibly-pro-life-republican-presidents-havent-been-able-to-do-anything-about-abortion/
And recall when Trump claimed he had become pro-life and wanted to punish women who obtain abortions with criminal penalties, how the Official Pro-Life Movement took him to task for daring to suggest such a thing. IOW, they don’t really care about ending abortion, or they’d have gotten it stopped already. All they exist for is to neuter actual anti-abortion sentiment, while preserving abortion in practice.
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Will S. says: There’s a reason why, despite it being primarily the Left that has promoted abortion, that the Right has been unable to stop it. It’s because women on the Right actually don’t truly oppose abortion. And GOP First Ladies and presidential candidate’s wives bear much blame in this regard – as do their husbands for marrying them and being henpecked.
That will be an interesting conversation. Sounds like it pretty much that first one- Gen 3:12 The man said, “The woman whom You gave to be with me..”
Why didn’t you lead efforts to end abortion? I was henpecked.
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Will, you’re sounding conspiratorial. But I do remember how pro-life leaders reacted to Trump.
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